my dad always says "it's not trespassing if you're not planning to do anything bad" which as a legal argument wouldn't get far but as a moral prerogative is completely sound

officer i am literally just in a location

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Mark Vomit (2020)

you may also know Mark Vomit from such hits as "You Are Not Immune To Propaganda" (featuring Garfield)

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gentle reminder that crying is actually one of the best things you can do to relieve all that tension and emotion in your brain, and not to resist the impulse because it's 'weak' or 'unnecessary' or 'a plea for attention.' if you need to cry, do it, even if you don't always know the reason. your body does.

If you have a senior to check on ask them to “borrow” something small so they think they’re helping you.

My mom (72) recently downsized and moved close enough to me that checking on her in person regularly is not really out of my way, but when I was obvious about it she wouldn’t let me “stop-by” because she was, “fine”.

Well, one day I actually needed some aluminum foil so I called and asked if I could borrow enough to cover a baking tin because I didn’t want to run to the store. She said sure, but when I got to her house she needed furniture moved, a wasp nest removed, and her coffee pot fixed. After I got the foil I mentioned each thing cautiously and she let me take care of them for her. So next weekend I’ll need a cup of rice and check on her again.

Don’t “let them think” they’re helping you.


Just LET THEM HELP YOU.


“Hey Mom, do you know how to fix a button? I lost one off my good shirt and I really need to learn.”


“Dad, how do you get your spaghetti sauce so good? If I come over on Saturday can you show me?”


“Playing cards sounds great, Mrs. Simmons, I’ve never learned canasta.”



Elders are also part of your community and they have much to teach you. Exchange. Don’t condescend.

Can we also extend this to disabled people please? I feel like we face a very similar kind of condescension (and obviously there is a significant overlap). I actually know lots of things most people don’t.

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